Why? God only knows!
© Ferna Lary Mills
There are no words to describe the devastation grief causes to the soul.  After the initial shock
and disbelief, the loudest question we ask becomes, "Why?"  Why did God allow this to
happen?  Why did this happen to someone who was so kind, so good, so young?  Why now?    
Why us? The question reverberates in our minds over and over again. We demand answers,
but no answers come. The anger builds. The frustration mounts. Even some Christians soundly
rooted in their faith begin to waiver.

The answer is actually very simple, but so very difficult for us to accept, and offers little in the
matter of comfort. But it's the only true answer.

Only God knows.

The creator of an airplane knows the exact workings of each part and what it takes to get that
airplane in the air. The average passenger sitting in a seat as it taxis down the runway, hasn't
got a clue.  But the passenger flies from one end of this country to the next because he has
placed his trust in the creator of that airplane.

God is our Creator. He knows the exact workings of this life we are living. We are the average
passengers, and most of the time we don't have a clue. When things go wrong, we don't know
why, only that something terrible went wrong. Our Creator knows why, for He is our Creator ~
and in His Divine wisdom He knows all. There is nothing He does not know!

There is a reason why a loved one dies and for whatever circumstances occurred surrounding
their death.  Just as there is a reason for everything else on this planet. God is our Creator. He
created the sunshine and the night for a reason. He created the length of the seasons for a
reason. He placed the stars and the planets throughout the universe in exact locations for a
reason. He is the one who laid the foundations of the universe and he did so for a specific
reason. The rotation of the earth, the location of the moon, the distance to the sun ~ all were
created for a reason.  
His reason.

Job had every calamity known to man happen to him and his family. He lost everything. His
family. His wealth. His home. His health. When he questioned God for the reasons why, God
responded by asking Job ":Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth? Tell me, if
you understand. Who marked off its dimensions? On what were its footings set, or who laid its
cornerstone while the morning stars sang together and all the angels shouted for joy?"

In other words, there are so many things we don't know and with our finite minds we cannot
begin to understand. For God to explain to me why my loved one died at this particular time,
would be like that aeronautical engineer trying to explain to a child the theories of aeronautics.

We have so many unanswered questions, but God alone has all of the answers. That doesn't
help, you say. Your heart still cries for answers. This is where you, as the passenger, need to
trust in the Creator.

We get angry. God could have prevented this tragedy, but He didn't. You are right. He could
have prevented it. But He didn't.  Why?  Again, only God knows.  But everything is according to
His plan. Everything. Even though it hurts. So what is His plan?  God had one ultimate plan in
all of His creation. He created us so that He could love us, and that we would love Him in
return, and in that ultimate love, that we should become like Christ.

From the moment of our birth until our last day on earth, God continues to be our Creator,
sculpting our spirits to be more Christ-like. The day we are born, our spirit is like a large lump of
stone, and throughout our life He chips away the portion of that stone that doesn't resemble
Christ, so that one day, we will indeed be glorious creations, worthy of the glorious place He
has prepared for us.

Nothing happens to us in this life that doesn't relate to His divine sculpting. Nothing. And
nothing happens to us in this life that ever takes the Lord by surprise. He knows our lives from
beginning to end, even from the moment he conceived each one of us in his thoughts.

So why did he allow a child to die? Or a loved one to die violently? Or other tragedies?  I
repeat, Only God Knows. I could guess any number of reasons, but how can I second-guess
God?  It would be crazier than trying to second-guess the creator of the airplane as to why the
whatszit it attached to the whatchamacallit.  I wasn't there when he was creating that airplane. I
don't have his wisdom of aeronautics. I don't have his knowledge of mechanics. I just want to
get to Miami. I don't need to know how it works. I only need to trust that it does.

I wasn't there when God was laying the foundations of the earth and set all of creation into
place. Neither do I have His knowledge or His wisdom. I would be foolish to try to "guess". I
don't have to know all of His inner workings in my life. I just want to get to Heaven!

Sure, the hurt and the anger are still there. The pain is real. But God's love is also very real,
and the one true thing in all of creation is that He does love you.  More deeply than you have
ever loved anyone, and in ways you cannot even begin to imagine.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is simply to trust Him.  And yet,  that's exactly what He wants
you to do.  

         Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not unto your own understanding.
                                                            ~ Proverbs 3:5

I didn't place the distance
between Jupiter and Mars.
I didn't time the seasons,
or position all the stars.
I didn't form the bonds
between the moon and the tide.
Nor do I know just how a bright sun,
mere clouds can hide.
I had no part in Creation
of beasts and plants, or man.
I have no special knowledge
of each detail of God's plan.
For I am not the Creator
of all things seen and unseen.
Certainly it's not meant for me
to understand what all things mean.
My task is really simple.
My job is to simply trust
in the Creator who created me
and formed me from the dust.
For He has all the answers.
He's completely in control.
I trust Him with my life.
I trust Him with all my soul.
When my trials on earth are over
and He comes to take my  hand,
I believe with all my heart
I will completely understand.

~ Ferna Lary Mills


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